Her mother was more worried that the photos did not reflect well on the family.The fact that Iqbal had been sneaking around seemed to come second.Every race and ethnicity counts some Muslims among its number, and mosques have been built around the world where they absorb local marriage customs.
There are some good reasons why this woman might want to walk away, though, that aren’t based on less-warranted stereotypes, reasons that have to do with the realities of the ways in which sexism, misogyny, sex-negativity, patriarchy, and purity culture manifest themselves Muslim-dominated cultures.In a nutshell, Shaikh says, he felt like they were having fun and he wasn't. Ghazala Irshad, who also grew up in a Muslim family in Illinois, says she knows young Muslims who growing up, were told to "lower [their] gaze" when they came across the opposite sex. We don’t know how to talk to the opposite sex, how do we go about this?"[But] by the time it comes to the age of trying to get married, then our parents are like, well, why aren’t you getting married, we want grandchildren ... We’re not allowed to date, we’ve been separated, we haven’t developed friendships," she says.In short, mid-life crises come early and hit harder for non-practicing Muslim men.I have seen this play out so many times in my own family and community that it no longer surprises me.